Does your life feel empty? Are you constantly pouring into others and receiving nothing in return? Do you often feel unappreciated and taken advantage of? It may be possible that you are struggling with boundaries.
Creating boundaries for your life can be challenging. It may seem selfish at times to say no especially if you feel the person on the other end needs you.
If you struggle with setting and maintaining boundaries it is quite possible that you know what it’s like to be let down. You’ve had your fair share of experiences where people didn’t show up for you. Could this be why you have made a vow to always show up for others?
How is that working for you? Have you noticed you’re getting annoyed more easily when someone asks you for help? That you’re tired, frustrated, and then you feel guilty for being annoyed. You feel stuck, like you’re not allowed to feel anything other than thankful and helpful. Boundaries feel mean and selfish to you, that saying no is somehow being unkind. You’re mad at yourself for being unable to set those boundaries. You know the change needs to come from you, but you don’t feel strong enough to say no.
If your kindness is being perceived as weakness, it’s time to make some changes.
I can help you find the tools and strength you need to show up for yourself. You can create the life and the relationships you desire one boundary at a time.